It happens. You may have misjudged, categorising them as friends - because you grew up with them in some school, college or university. It may be so that they were 'best' category colleagues at some point in time. They no longer entertain calls, receive yet ignore when it comes to calling back. It happens.
But realisation of such a behaviour is what's called experience. I had a very close friend, once. We studied together post-college. There was regular or at least once-in-a-while interaction. As my 'close friend' became more engrossed in his career, he picked up well with his new city and friends. Several attempts, thereafter I lost him to the crowd. A gap of a few years, he was commenting and liking my posts. I had no options but to ignore. The damage was done already.
A second instance of a 'friend' in the profession. We lost connect, yet somehow after years we were able to join on phone. We liked talking as we had similar pointers for discussion. The interaction is over: case-02.
If I mentioned the above two, I must mention a wonderful case too. I was able to connect to a friend 16 years later. After him came the whole group I was disconnected with all those years. We are now in a regular chat mode, different cities, profiles, but connected.
We make a mistake at understanding people, but we realise at some point in time. Not everyone you come across is a 'friend'. There are people who are connected 'unconditionally'. Yet there are many who try to see through some purpose for staying in touch. The second category is of 'professionals' who somehow get into our 'friend' circle. It's only the first category which is 'friends'.
Time for a reality check? While everyone is a 'friend', most will disappear like changing seasons. Give up those who enact being one; nature always throws in a new season. There are many more people you are still to meet ahead in life. Who knows some of your best friends are still to come in your life! Move on, gals and guys!
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